Committing Same Mistakes Again!! My Take..

Last day was thinking about that "Why people commit same mistakes again and again?" despite the fact we are capable of learning for our past experiences. I also got cofused as are mainly hedonists and thus will always try to reduce pain and maximise pleasure (and mind you mistakes involve pain and correcting them will be pleasurable) still fall to the same pit again and again. While ruminating over the issue, I had came to the few observation for this paradoxical behaviour of ours.

• The fun of doing/committing that action is too much that it actually tempts us again and again.
• Another reason may be that we had this faulty belief that we had actually learned from our past mistakes and thus now they will not commit the same mistake and yet when it actually comes to act same thing is commited.
• Sometimes it happens that long time had passed since the last time we had committed "the mistake" and thus the pain/discomfort caused by the mistake has been partially/entirely forgotten.
• In some cases there is a wrong assessment of current situation and we tend to perceive current situation as entirely different from the last time when we had committed the mistake. This makes the present situation less threatening/alarming and make us assume (though wrongly) that this time same behavioral reportarrie will lead to better results. Therefore, we believe that this time same behaviour of ours will lead to better results and wil not lead to mistake.
• Lastly, same mistake is committed again because sometimes we tend to downplay (both consciously or unconsciously) the discomfort or pain caused by our mistake and thus we tend to deny the mistake as being mistake per se.

No doubt there can be other reasons for falling into same traps again and again but in the end idea is to understand the fallings and to make sense out of this confusing world.

Till then Keep Thinking...

Warriors will earn their Pride

Since Long I was living my life as it came and had completely forgotten that what it had meant to be a Warrior, a Fighter. However a single incident in my Life had brought me back to my senses. The incident was very mundane on its outset. It involved a simple person, Swain. He was a member to my Athletic Meet Squad. He is a typical guy that longs for attention and generally does not get it. Everybody used to laugh on him, ridicule him and kind of bully him. I also thought that the guy is simply stupid.

I would have kept on thinking the same until when the athletic meet started. There he was willing to participate in every event and he became rather pushing. It annoyed most of us (including me). The situation became especially tense when he started to ask for participating in the Group Events (such as Relay Races). We all believed that this stupid attention seeker will embarrass us all "Cool and Confident Guys". However, he hard pressed and as most of us are also unwilling to go out and stick ours necks (we were so embarrassed to lose that we never wanted to participate even). So, though unwilling, we allowed him to compete. After all, we all believed that let him go out and be embarrassed as some more stupidity will not harm him.

But then strange and unbelievable thing happened. He not only participated but actually "competed". He ran with all his might and either brought the Lead or reduced the Lag. And he competed so fiercely, with his heart that it was both sobering and enlightening to all of us.
It was then we all realized what it takes to be a "Warrior" and believe me he ran for whole of the day and Competed, despite the fact other members of Relays were never able to match his HEART, Enthusiasm and Speed. Therefore we lost all the events yet he remained unflinching and kept on running similarly hard.

In evening when we all were gathering back to closing ceremony, he came back to squad, tired and exhausted. We were so humbled by his effort that everyone congratulated him. It then when I actually realized (though I knew it beforehand) that "Warriors will Earn their Pride".

I always wanted to bring the Glory to me and my family and I always did brought, through my sheer determination and Valor. However, since so long I had forgotten this simple strategy and started to seek Glory by acting smart rather than going out and winning it. But this guy had brought me back to my senses and had shown me that the only way one can earn real respect is by “fighting hard” and giving more than 100 percent of his ability.

Thanks Swain, for teaching me humility and bring home a very important point. I will always be indebted to you.

Long Live the Fighting Spirit.

A Rapist is becoming IAS as High Court thinks him Fit for the Job: What the Hell???

While everybody is going nuts over the Valentine’s Day’s celebrations, they became so consumed with the debate that no discussion or protests are happening on so vital issues such as this one.

The Delhi High Court has set free a convict in a rape case, who made it to the civil services while undergoing life imprisonment in Tihar Central Jail here, by reducing his sentence to the period of five-and-a-half years he has already undergone. The court did so by stating that the convict has “redeemed” himself in the jail by qualifying in the Union civil services examination.At the time of commission of the crime, the convict, Ashok Rai, was giving tuitions to meet his expenditure.

The trial court had sentenced him to life imprisonment, holding him guilty of sexually assaulting his 21-year-old student. The victim had later committed suicide.

The prosecution had alleged that the victim had consented to have an intimate relationship with the accused as he had given her a false promise to marry. Setting the convict free, a Division Bench of the Court comprising Justice Pradeep Nandrajog and Justice Aruna Suresh said: “Rai has redeemed himself in jail is evident from the fact that he took his civil service examinations and qualified for being appointed to the Indian Administrative Service. We are of the opinion that the sentence already suffered by him would meet the ends of justice.”The Bench, however, upheld the charge of rape against Rai.

I am so deeply hurt by this incident as I myself is a civil service aspirant and think that this service is such a honor that only truly deserving candidates should be allowed to enter this service.

What hurts me more that not a single voice is raised by so called Moral Police or Enlightened Civil Societies. Is the future of India so bleak as we have to have a Rapist for the most esteem administrative post and can give him all powers to run our country as sooner or later this guy will get promoted to Secretary Level and will be formulating policies for future India.
Earlier it was politicians whom we had trusted and given responsibilities to shape our future despite their tainted past and as if that is not sufficient now we have Rapist IAS for running our nation.

Ironically there is a guy whom any sensible person will not have any contacts will be made in-charge of a district and who himself had raped a girl will be given responsibility to protect all citizens (including females) of a district. What a farce? Interestingly no one cares a damn about that. After all we are too busy fighting over other trivial issues such as sending “Pink Panties” and burning romantic cards. This issue seems too insignificant for our sensibilities and concern for civil rights. After all, the Girl is dead and the guy cleared the toughest exam so no one is complaining.

Now it means do whatever you want to do and then either win an election or clear an exam and all your sins will be pardoned if not by God then by the Judiciary or by the masses. If this is not Bullsh*t that what classifies as Bullsh*t is beyond my comprehension.

The High Court has assumed that qualifying for IAS means that the convict has reformed himself. However, an ability to study, and qualify for a Central service does not and cannot show that any such reform has taken place. As there have been several instances of rapists who have been highly educated, and have occupied responsible positions. The judgment reveals a patriarchal and class bias, and sets an extremely retrograde precedent.

So Long Live Indian Democracy…

Long Live Indian Hypocrisy…

And Let the India and Indian Culture perish (as now no one seems to really care)

Why Modern India need Shri Ram Sene and Why they should be supported?? Part 2

On the other hand parents also wish for some agency that controls their kids’ behavior especially when kids are away from home under the excuse of some other activity. That is the reason why most of the parents are not complaining against the activities of SRS rather subtly approving their acts. There only complain is that acts of SRS are done under media glare thus bring bad name to their family. Similarly the youths are complaining not because their fundamental rights are being bartered rather because their secret rendezvous became exposed to their parents and their parents are getting to know all those secrets that they are hiding from them. This becomes evident as none of the so called victims of SRS’s activities are coming further to report them. Though the critics may argue that people are not reporting SRS acts as they are scared of them but then we have seen people rising and taking the big guns head on in the cases of Jesika Lal are similar cases.

Similarly the reluctance of Bureaucracy, politicians and judiciary to come for rescuing these victims also point out that the ideology of SRS and its classification of what is Indian and what is not, is not much objectionable to them. After all before being politician, Judges and police personnel, they are member of the society.

On the other hand this can also be argued that the Indian does not belong to boozing and flirting youth only. It belongs to the elderly generation also and if their sentiments get hurt by such an open and vulgar display of affection at public places. Now the question is that what right does a couple have to lie to their parents, have friendship with sexual connotations and act in a manner that is not acceptable to other fellow citizens.

By the way, why the hell every Indian youth want to blindly imitate the sexual life style of western world under the guise of modernity as they shies away when it comes to other modern values of non-discrimination, righteousness, honesty, democratic values, civic sensibilities etc. it the same pub-going and Valentine’s day celebrating youth that curses India for everything, does not vote, does not stand up and protest against all other important issues (except when their pubs are raided and Valentine’s Day celebrations are cancelled).

Ironically, after few years when today’s young victims will become parents then they will also oppose their kids’ pub going, late night parties and promiscuous behavior.

Basically it is the distorted notion of modernity; loosing parental control, increasing anonymity in cities etc are responsible for rise of such moral police that also has the tactical approval for their activities form a significant section of society.

Though SRS’s implementation style can be objected but not their significance and value in Indian culture, after all not matter how much we deny but we all know that what is Indian culture and pub going and pre marital courtship is not part of it.